自律:有效生活的基础(5/6)

When a person has, for some reason or another, allowed muscles to decrease to the point where they literally can't use them, they go through a long process of therapy, gradually rebuilding the strength in those muscles until they can use them without assistance. It's not impossible for this to happen with self-discipline; someone who once possessed plenty of it can allow it to decrease by failing to use restraint and letting bad habits commandeer their life. I know this happened to me, and it wasn't easy to fix. There is a point where you let your self-discipline weaken so much that it's impossible to get it back without outside assistance. That point is where accountability comes into play; having someone to push you and force you to do what you can't force yourself to do. They keep you accountable for each action, and not only give you an angry stare when you fail, but ensure you don't fail in the first place. The key is to find someone who's going to be present in your day-to-day life enough to help you. If you're working on a new habit for your work life, then they only need to present at work.

当一个人由于这个或那个原因减少使用肌肉以至于他们变得毫无用武之地。他们经过一个漫长的治疗过程,逐渐使这些肌肉重获力量最后可以无需借用外力来使力。这种情况也同样适用于自律;即使一个曾经自律性很强的人也可能因为不加以克制和坏习惯主导生活而使自己变得自律性不强。我知道我也是这样,而且这问题不容易解决。你放松自律之甚以至于如果没有外界的帮助你就无法重获自律。也正因为此责任发挥到作用；找一个人逼迫你去做你无法强迫自己去做的事情。他们使你对自己的每个行动负责,不会在你失败的时候只会对你生气,而是确保你不会一开始就失败。关键是要找到一个能够在你的日常生活给你足够的帮助的人。如果你致力于在工作生活中创造一个新习惯,那他们只需要在你工作的时候给与帮助即可。